Week 9 – Memorabilia

 It’s Week 9 of the 2024 Clever Girl Organizing Challenge! We’re in the home stretch, the final 3 weeks and they’re all meaty and valuable categories, so stay with us!

Memorabilia and our sentimental “treasures” – all the things we keep as touchstones of our past, or things we’ve inherited from the pasts of others. For a lot of people, this may be the toughest we’ve faced. Even Returning Challengers likely have work to do here. But the work we’ve done up until now has strengthened our muscles and decision making, and I know we’re ready!

By the way this week’s Live video will be a bit more practical, with discussions about dealing with some things like greeting cards, printed photos, and inherited items. 

If I have one mantra that I want you to embrace this week, it is:

“Just because it is memorable doesn’t mean it is important.”

Don’t forget the guidelines I’d love for you to keep in mind before you start your work:

1) Have the tools you need before you get started — trash bags, recycling, donate box, and “goes somewhere else” box (so you can set things aside and keep going, not be tempted to return things to a different space while you’re working). This week could also use a SHRED box or bag. 

2) Keep taking those BEFORE and AFTER photos, either for your own ability to see your progress, to to share your accomplishments and encourage others in the Facebook Group. 

PS – don’t forget to review the Products and Solutions pages for some inspiration!

THIS WEEK’S ASSIGNMENT

This week is about facing our past, and making considerations about what parts of our past do we actively take forward with us into our future. It’s not about asking you to let go of it all, or even of any of it. As with everything in this Challenge, it’s asking the question of ourselves: “What do we own, and why do we own it?” It’s about actively answering that question, not just holding onto things because we always have before, or because it fits in our storage or isn’t in our way. It’s about actively reviewing and validating these items and actively recommitting to owning them, or deciding that it’s okay to leave some things in the past, and it doesn’t change who we are or the future ahead of us. 

In some cases, this week is also about considering the way or the place we store things. We might re-home some items into better storage options, smaller containers, different spots that make it easier (or harder) to find. We might decide to display items that we loved and were packed away and forgotten about, and we might decide to pack away items we don’t feel the need to see every day anymore. In some ways, if things are just inventoried and organized better, especially if they’re important and how you care for them may impact their longevity, you’ll feel like you’ve made a big impact on this weight.

Take this week, and if you need it, next week, to come up with a plan and start reconnecting with your mementoes and memorabilia, and making some reflection on what you own and why own it. Consider that there may be ways of slimming your collection, like taking photos of items before letting them go, keeping a percentage of items from a category while still keeping a core collection. Head to the “Why is this so hard?” section for a LOT of questions to help you frame up why things feel so sticky for you, and how you might move forward with some of the hard work of letting go, if that’s your goal.

What are some example categories that fit here?

  • Photos – printed or digital
  • Greeting cards and letters you’ve received (the meaningful message-filled ones as well as the ones I call “autographs” or the ones you know were just attached to a present so you knew who the gift was from)
  • Event Mementoes (like concert tickets stubs, news clippings, event programs, receipts)
  • Items that you associate with moments you wanted to remember at the time (SO many examples, but a few might be: graduation tassels, corks from champagne bottles, pressed flowers, high school varsity letter, etc.)
  • Your Kids Artwork / Schoolwork
  • YOUR school papers and artwork from your youth
  • Religious items
  • Old journals
  • Travel Souvenirs
  • Gifts we’ve received
  • Home movies
  • Old planners and calendars
  • Baby Items (yours or someone else’s) – teeth, hair, hospital bracelets, bronze baby shoes, baby clothes, etc.
  • Old IDs (personal, work, student, whatever)
  • Keepsakes you’ve found along the way that spoke to you – rocks, shells, coaster, matchbooks, quirky items, postcards, etc.
  • Awards, Ribbons, and Trophies
  • Celebrity items – photos, autographs, sports mementos, etc.
  • Hobby/Collections – coins, stamps, sports cards, trading cards, models, dolls, stuffed animals, stickers, etc. (BTW – we’ll focus on supplies/materials that we use to create our Hobbies, art supplies, and sporting goods, etc. in #Week10)
  • Items that were SOMEONE ELSE’S memorabilia that you’ve inherited.

I’m sure YOU can add even more as you think about your own life! 

YOUR ASSIGNMENT:

1) Clean out and Edit several categories or spaces – (for instance – the closet, dresser, cabinets, underbedbox, attic, basement, etc.) – Prioritize the spaces that feel the most overwhelming and the ones you *know* deserve a real edit. Do one category at a time. Make sure you have the space to work AND the space to set aside things that aren’t going back in the same space (time for a relo?) or aren’t staying with you at all. Start one shelf at a time, one drawer at a time. Pace yourself! But prepare for DUST, items that have fallen apart over the years, and maybe even bugs/critters have gotten to them. Take precautions for your health and safety – gloves, glasses, masks, etc.

2) Wipe Down or wash out surfaces as necessary – Okay, our memorabilia that we’re going through tends to be on shelves or boxed up in different spaces, hidden away, so cleaning may be different this week. 

3) Consider the Organization of Keepers – Where things go doesn’t have to be where things have been! Are there different ways to set up your system that better serve who you are today?

4) Create Exits for what’s going – This week might have everything – trash, donations, give to someone in particular, research selling… Whatever your #exitstrategy is make it happen and get it out.

MINI-CHALLENGE THIS WEEK:

Can’t quite take on this week’s full assignment? You might not have the time, energy, or need. That’s okay! Try to set up at least two 30-minute sessions where you can focus on a critical area in this space or category. Set a timer, stay focused, and see what you can accomplish in less time than it would take to watch a sitcom! 

PICK AT LEAST ONE:

  • Completely review one storage SPACE where you’re keeping sentimental and memorabilia items – a box, a tote, a drawer, a shelf, a cabinet, etc.
  • Completely review on CATEGORY of sentimental and memorabilia items, no matter if they’re spread out and live in a variety of areas

 

RETURNING CHALLENGERS FOCUS:

If you’re a Returning Challenger, or if your a First timer looking to go deeper: If you’re ready for a deeper exploration, think about a few different areas maybe you haven’t explored before: 

 

  • Our memorabilia and sentimental items can have BIG CATEGORIES or BIG SPACES that need a strategy. Photos. Family History/Ancestry work. Things we inherited from a loved one that we haven’t dealt with yet. All the kids artwork.

    If you have a big category that has been neglected and nagging at you, this is your week to outline a strategy, including timelines and outcomes, even if you only get it STARTED this week, but work on it in coming weeks in The Challenge or in 2024.

    WHY IS THIS SO HARD? 

    Our Memorabilia is from our past. In some cases, it’s from ALL of our past: our youth, from our former (and current) romances, our friends, our college days, our careers, our travels, or handed down from our family members to treasure. They are mementos from people who have left our lives or passed away, tokens of their identity and our relationship with them.

    They are from great moments, or sad moments, or even from a moment that wasn’t very special, but the way we remember it is. They’re from moments that, at the time we said, “I want to mark this occasion, and I’m going to hold onto this item to do so.” They are our “stuff alibi” that shows the trail of where we’ve been.

    Our collections and our hobbies, the leisure pursuits we’ve enjoyed over the years, can be keepsakes and memorabilia. Collections have been built not only in our hunt and search for treasure, but with gifts others have thoughtfully added to our collection, even if we weren’t actively growing it ourselves.

    Keepsakes and memorabilia can be everywhere, but their mere existence isn’t a problem. So, when do sentimental items become a problem?

    We love the emotions we feel when we touch and revisit them. Our hearts warm and we sigh for the past. We can get lost in our memorabilia for hours! But there can be a point where we know that we are just holding on to too much of it. Maybe it’s driven by space needs, or just knowing how much is around us that is weighing us down, or how much work it will be to deal with when we want to move. It could be preventing us from moving on after a loss or after a change in life. We may even address these things because we just don’t want our loved ones to have to deal with all this stuff after we’re gone. 

    If we have a goal of reducing what we have, and our sentimental items are part of it, we get there by saying to ourselves, “I enjoy the memory that this item conjures up for me. But I can live without it, especially if it helps me get to my bigger goals for my life now. I can let go of this.

    It is when we can’t bring ourselves to say that statement, when we just can’t let those items leave our lives, that we recognize our barrier is going up, and it is preventing us from letting go.

    At first, the barrier feels like a general unwillingness, and it can be strong enough to not look past it. However, the barrier, deep down, once again, is usually fear: 

    • We are afraid of feeling like we’ll lose part of ourselves if we part with an item.
    • We fear the thought of parting with those items, as if we’re either betraying our past self, or someone else.
    • We are afraid we’ll lose the memory itself, and our ability to revisit or share our story, without it. (Or that others won’t be able to tell our story after we’re gone, and we hope they would.)
    • We believe we’ll want to continue to revisit these emotions time and time again, and fear that, without this keepsake to hold in our hands, we won’t be able to recapture the joy. Not being able to recapture joy seems like something to avoid!

    All of those scenarios, those emotions, we tend to want to avoid. Forever.

    We all love our collections and our walks down memory lane and should have some keepsakes for our ability to do that. I’m not suggesting that we shouldn’t hold onto meaningful things. Think about your goals and decide whether holding on to too many items that have little or no other value besides triggering old memories, and they take up more of your home than you feel they should given how you want to live in the space.

    Since we’re talking about the sentimental, and not the practical, we need some “big picture” philosophical questions to help guide you through it and help you understand the role each item plays in your life. These are meant to help you see the difference between items being memorable and items being important. Just because something triggers a memory doesn’t mean it is also important to you.

    As you think critically about items, ask:

    • KEEPING: What do you gain from keeping this? What do you lose from keeping it?
    • LETTING GO: What do you gain from letting it go? What do you lose from letting it go?
    • What would your past-self say if it knew you still had this, and what would your future-self say if it knew you let go of it?
    • Are you keeping it primarily because you want someone else (child, grandchild, etc.) to find it as emotionally valuable as you do, maybe even after you’re gone? (kids’ artwork and old report cards, anyone?) And, do you know for sure they will value it as you hope they will? 
    • Are the memories and the keepsake even yours, or are they the memories of someone else, that have ended up in your hands through gift or inheritance? Is the item important to you, or is that person important?
    • Does the item bring you sadness or make you feel bad about yourself or someone else? Sometimes, our memorabilia bring up negative feelings: guilt, sadness, regret, heartbreak. Yet, for whatever reason, we still feel committed to holding onto these things to rekindle the memories of our life’s experience. Is holding onto things that bring about negative feelings really a good thing for you and your home?
    • Are you keeping it because someone else expects you to, but it doesn’t mean much to you, personally? In other words, is the primary emotion you attach to it obligation or guilt? (yep – there’s that GUILT again!)
    • If someone you care about accidentally came across this item, would it be awkward or upsetting to them?
    • Do you really know WHY it is so important to you? Are you just accepting an easy, on-the-surface answer, or is there a deeper meaning behind your attachment to this, and you’re not facing it?

    Okay, they don’t ALL have to be big and heavy questions. There are some practical questions we can ask, too:

    • How much space of your very valuable real estate and storage space are you willing to allocate to items that don’t have a function, but only serve to generate memories when you revisit them? Can you set a limit to the space, and then prioritize what ends up in that space?
    • Do you have more than one item that reminds you of that person, place, or moment? Would you be okay if you kept only one or a small set of those items? This comes up so often when going through things like children’s old clothing or artwork. I know how tough this is; be disciplined with yourself with this! Do you need ten outfits from when your child was growing up, to help you remember they were that age once, especially if you have a picture of your child wearing it? Do you need every rainbow picture that was finger painted?
    • Can you rank importance among them? Set up four piles, and rank what goes in each:
      • “I could never, ever, ever let go of this item, and if the house caught fire, I’d rescue it.”
      • “I am glad I’ve kept this. I enjoy revisiting it occasionally, if I stumble upon it. If it were gone forever, I’d miss it, but it wouldn’t really impact my life.”
      • “Hmm, I kept it at the time, but I don’t need it anymore. Sure, I remember a moment when I look at it, but it’s not a critical part of how my life has turned out.”
      • “Honestly, I have no idea why I kept this in the first place.”
    • Do you need to keep the item as it is, or could you take a photo of it? Scan copies of cards or letters? Create a digital scrapbook? Capture it all in a cloud-based collection of images or videos that you can keep for yourself or share with others electronically? Or turn into a collection in a shadow box? Or a keepsake quilt? Do you need the whole item, like the program from the school musical you were in, or could you edit it down to just the parts that are meaningful?
    • Do you truly have the space to store and display your collection at its current volume? Has your collection taken over space that would be more valuable if used in a different way?
    • Are you able to appreciate the collection with how much you have, or have the special pieces been lost in the numbers?
    • Is there someone else who’d love to have the keepsake for their own memories? This is a good way to think about family heirlooms… you may have other family that would love them, too.

    As you walk through these questions, you should start to feel a difference between what you can let go of and what you won’t. It gets easier over time, as you become stronger at finding the clarity in what is important for your future, and not just evidence of your past. It can also get easier over time, if the pressure to reduce your possessions means you need to make deeper cuts into what you’re keeping. When you have no choice, you stop allowing yourself to choose.

    If you were to walk away with three important ideas about managing your keepsakes and memories, I hope they would be:

    1. Write your stories down. Not only does this help you capture your memories, but it helps share them with others and pass on the stories after you’re no longer able to tell people about what is important to you and why.
    2. Honor what you’re keeping. If your keepsakes are in a box in the basement or attic and you never look at them, what value are they really playing in your life? If items are important to you and bring you happiness, can you make them more prominent in your life? If something is not important enough to be featured prominently, are you questioning why you are holding on to it?
    3. Remember that our stuff is stuff. It is not our memories. It is not the people we love. Our memories are in our heads and our hearts.

    My hope for you this week is that you’re able to listen to those barriers or these rationalizations or justifications that come up and you’re able to ask yourself:

    What is the real role these items play in my life today, and in my foreseeable future? Why am I valuing these items as more important than the other things I’ve been working hard on all this time, struggling with storage space, cleaning, maintenance of spaces? What am I gaining TODAY by keeping these items?

     

    Remember: You’re here because you made a choice to bring your head, heart, and body all in the same direction: to let go of things and have smoother systems in your home. If it was easy, you’d be done by now.

    I look forward to hearing in the Facebook Group what’s getting your attention this week… what is on your mind, what are your goals, and what is your desired outcome when it comes to the idea of going through this category? It’s not about getting rid of everything; it’s about curating what you have to make sure you’re enjoying and honoring the treasure, and letting go of the “clutter” that isn’t so special anymore.

    Say it with me: “Just because it is memorable doesn’t mean it is important.”

     

    Happy Organizing!

    Kathy (aka Clever Girl)

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    WEDNESDAY, MAR 6th – 1:00pm Eastern
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    SCHEDULE AT A GLANCE

    Week 1 – Jan 8: Kitchen: Food – Pantry, Fridge, and Freezer
    Week 2 – Jan 15: Kitchen/Dining: What we use to prep, cook, serve, eat, store & clean! 
    Week 3 – Jan 22: Bath and Bed: Medicines, Toiletries, Cosmetics, Personal Items, etc. 
    Week 4 – Jan 29: BREAK – take a break, catch up, or sneak ahead
    Week 5 – Feb 5: Clothes, shoes, accessories
    Week 6 – Feb 12: Home Office/Papers 
    Week 7 – Feb 19: BREAK – take a break, catch up, or sneak ahead
    Week 8 – Feb 26: Living / Family Room spaces
    Week 9 – Mar 4: Memorabilia
    Week 10 – Mar 11: Hobbies / Arts and Crafts / Sporting Goods 
    Week 11 – Mar 18: Kid stuff / Holiday Decor / Pet stuff / Other Clutter Traps!